Work Life Balance – Does It Really Exist?

Do you ever feel guilty about the amount of time you spend working on your business?
Are there times when you struggle to find the balance between work time and family time?

Like many women in business, achieving work/life balance is something I’ve often struggled with.

Dividing your time each day into the various aspects of life that are important to you is a strategy I’ve heard shared by many.  I’ve given this a go numerous times and more often than not, I wind up feeling even more stressed out and a total failure.

Here’s an example that I think some of you may relate to …

Imagine that over breakfast you promised your husband that you would down tools at 5pm so the two of you could spend some time together.  You’ve been working diligently all day but come 5pm you haven’t quite finished what you needed to get done for the day.  You want to honour your promise to your husband, so you head off to spend some time with him.  He greets you warmly and then starts sharing his day with you.  Whilst you do your best to stay engaged in the conversation,  you find your mind wandering back to work and to what you didn’t complete that day.  You catch yourself and do your best to refocus on what your husband is saying hoping he didn’t notice.

My realisation …
You can be physically present but if you are emotionally absent you’re not present at all.

So what does it mean to create work/life balance?
What seems pretty apparent is that it’s not a one size fits all solution.
Work/Life Balance means different things to different people.   The greatest struggle we have trying to find it is we never define what it means for us.

So in some moments of reflection I came up with what work / life balance means for me.  I hope that in sharing my insights it helps you to discover what it means for you.

For me, balance is a sense of peace and harmony within.  Its about being willing to become more aware of the conversations I have with myself that cause  internal conflict, to observe them and when they don’t add value to my life, letting them go.  It’s about accepting that there will be times when I choose to invest more time and energy into my work and being okay about it.  It’s about letting go of my need for approval and having the courage to live my life based on what feels right for me and my family.  Its about blending the various aspects of life that are important to me knowing that time spent on each may not be equal.

It’s also about being really honest with myself when it comes to how I choose to spend my time.  I know there were times as a mother that I found it really tough and I used my business as a distraction and refuge.  I prioritised my work not because it was more important to me but because I found it easier to spend time there.  There have been times when I’ve used my work to hide from my husband.  I felt like I was having more success in my business than I was in my relationship so I chose to spend more time there.

Whilst very human, this behaviour was neither good for my business nor good for my family!

So now I’ve shared what work/life balance means for me, I’d love to know what it means for you?

Please take a moment to share in the comments section below so that we may learn and grow together.

Love & Gratitude
Lyndsey xo

 

Work Life Balance – Does It Really Exist?

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  1. Work/life balance for me means being able to share the hours in my day as best as I can to meet the needs of not only my family and myself but my work. I look at my day and work out how I can best fit my business tasks around my family. I’ve come up with a solution that seems to be working for me but I definitely need to check in with my family to see if they feel it’s working for them. Hubby often tells me that I never ‘switch off’ from work which I don’t totally agree with but I’m trying to be aware of the moments I’m with the family and how I engage with them.

    I agree with you Lyndsey that I have often found it easier to spend time in my office doing ‘things’ than engaging with the family…something I’m working on.

    Every day is different and I think we can find our own definition of ‘balance’ but it is ever evolving and changing depending on the demands of work and demands of the family.

    1. I have set a work hours schedule so others cannot try to distract me from doing my work. I tend to do things for others mainly my family before myself. Therefore I have to try to catch up.

  2. If I spend time on training I feel guilty that I am not spending time with my husband as he is not a well man. But when I spend time with him I also feel guilty that the washing and housework is not being done. Then I feel like I am neglecting doing my training. I need to find a happy medium where I spend time with them all. I have tried to split my time 3 ways only to fail miserably. So since my hubby is so understanding and knows how much I love to train he does mind me spending so much time on training. I then try and make sure I spend extra time with him. Its so difficult some times but somehow I get though it.

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