Do you ever feel guilty about the amount of time you spend working on your business?
Are there times when you struggle to find the balance between work time and family time?
Like many women in business, achieving work/life balance is something I’ve often struggled with.
Dividing your time each day into the various aspects of life that are important to you is a strategy I’ve heard shared by many. I’ve given this a go numerous times and more often than not, I wind up feeling even more stressed out and a total failure.
Here’s an example that I think some of you may relate to …
Imagine that over breakfast you promised your husband that you would down tools at 5pm so the two of you could spend some time together. You’ve been working diligently all day but come 5pm you haven’t quite finished what you needed to get done for the day. You want to honour your promise to your husband, so you head off to spend some time with him. He greets you warmly and then starts sharing his day with you. Whilst you do your best to stay engaged in the conversation, you find your mind wandering back to work and to what you didn’t complete that day. You catch yourself and do your best to refocus on what your husband is saying hoping he didn’t notice.
My realisation …
You can be physically present but if you are emotionally absent you’re not present at all.
So what does it mean to create work/life balance?
What seems pretty apparent is that it’s not a one size fits all solution.
Work/Life Balance means different things to different people. The greatest struggle we have trying to find it is we never define what it means for us.
So in some moments of reflection I came up with what work / life balance means for me. I hope that in sharing my insights it helps you to discover what it means for you.
For me, balance is a sense of peace and harmony within. Its about being willing to become more aware of the conversations I have with myself that cause internal conflict, to observe them and when they don’t add value to my life, letting them go. It’s about accepting that there will be times when I choose to invest more time and energy into my work and being okay about it. It’s about letting go of my need for approval and having the courage to live my life based on what feels right for me and my family. Its about blending the various aspects of life that are important to me knowing that time spent on each may not be equal.
It’s also about being really honest with myself when it comes to how I choose to spend my time. I know there were times as a mother that I found it really tough and I used my business as a distraction and refuge. I prioritised my work not because it was more important to me but because I found it easier to spend time there. There have been times when I’ve used my work to hide from my husband. I felt like I was having more success in my business than I was in my relationship so I chose to spend more time there.
Whilst very human, this behaviour was neither good for my business nor good for my family!
So now I’ve shared what work/life balance means for me, I’d love to know what it means for you?
Please take a moment to share in the comments section below so that we may learn and grow together.
Love & Gratitude