What do you do when fear comes knocking?

I began my journey of self-awareness in 2003. It was the year that I made the decision to quit my addiction to gambling. I needed to do something to get my life back on track and becoming more self-aware seemed like a good place to start.

I remember in the early days I thought self-awareness was a place I’d get to, a destination of sorts. Thirteen years on and I’ve realised it’s more like an ever evolving journey filled with lots of unexpected twists and turns. It’s as challenging as it is rewarding and in my humble opinion, a path worthy of your commitment if you want to turn your dreams into your reality.

Some days I feel I’ve got it nailed and other days I feel like I’m on my training wheels. Such is the journey of self-awareness.

Although I’m no longer in the field doing parties, I’m still running a business and there are days when I avoid taking action that I know will move me in the direction of my dreams.

Why?

Fear! Yep … like many of you, I have these moments too!

So how do you quickly move through these moments of fear and into action?

You can take a leaf out of Nike’s book and just do it.
You can take a Susan Jeffers stance and feel the fear and do it anyway.

Frankly, both of these are great options and ones that I use frequently. Having said that, if you want to dissolve fear, self-awareness is the key. You see, what I’ve come to learn is that fear is unlikely to be a result of what’s happening in the moment. It’s usually a result of focusing on a future that hasn’t happened yet or a past that has been and gone.

It’s those ‘WHAT IF I do this and this happens’ thoughts’ or ‘LAST TIME I did that and this happened’ thoughts.

Although it’s a little crazy, it’s what we sometimes do in our moments of unawareness.

The great news is, when you can see that your fear is being fuelled by WHAT IF’s and LAST TIMES and there is nothing to fear in the present moment, your fear dissolves and you can spring joyfully back into action.

So now I’d love to learn from you.

How do you dissolve fear and get back into action?

Please share in the comments section below so we may continue to learn and grow together.
Lyndsey xo

How To Minimise Cancellations And Postponements

Are cancellations and postponements getting you down?

Are you missing out on achieving your goals and dreams because your parties don’t hold?

Having worked in the field for many years myself I understand the emotional roller coaster ride you experience when you get party bookings in your calendar or diary only to lose them days or sometimes hours before they are due to go ahead.  Not only does it play havoc with you achieving your goals, it impacts your family’s cash flow and messes with your confidence.

If you want to minimize cancellations and postponements it’s important to remember that people are constantly making choices on how to spend their time.  A host may book a party with you today for a certain date and then a few days later a friend may invite them over for dinner on the exact same day.  Whether they decide to hold their party date with you or go to their friend’s house for dinner is determined by what they believe will add the most value to their lives.  If you fail to position your product called “The Party Experience” as something of value  to your host, then you can expect lots of postponements and cancellations.

Here’s my top three tips on how you can reduce your postponements and cancellations and get more parties to stick.

Step #1 – Find Out Why Your Host Has Booked

When you know why your host has chosen to book a party, you can offer gentle reminders along the way to keep them engaged and enthusiastic about holding their party.

There are usually five key reasons that people choose to book a party.

#1 – They love your products and want to get them free or at a discount
#2 – They want to help their friend maximize the host rewards
#3 – They want to have some fun with their friends
#4 – They love your message and want to share it with others
#5 – They love you and want to help you grow your business

Step #2 – Keep Your Hosts Enthusiasm Alive

When you know why your host has booked you can keep their enthusiasm alive by reminding them why holding their party is important to them.  Organising a party can be an emotional roller coaster for many people. When they initially book they are usually excited. Then as they start inviting people to come along, they may get a few knock backs and their enthusiasm can start to wane. It’s up to you to keep the fire in their bellies burning if you want the party to hold.

Step #3 – Stay In Touch With Your Host

Just because someone has booked a party, doesn’t mean they are completely sold on holding it.  Its said that people need to hear your marketing message seven times before they become fully committed to buying from you.  Having an effective host coaching system in place enables you to continue marketing the benefits of hosting a party to your host, dramatically increasing the number of parties that stick!

Will people cancel if they book more than 2 weeks out?

I’m a big fan of booking in close because it helps to build momentum in your business.  If you’re a relatively new Consultant, it will also make the process of keeping your host excited about holding their party a little easier for you.  Having said that, if you have a busy calendar booking further out doesn’t mean people will lose interest and postpone or cancel their parties.  I had more than 80 parties in my calendar at any one time and few moved.  Why?   Because I followed Steps 1-3 above and as a result, got very good at positioning my product called ‘The Party Experience” as something of great value in the eyes of my hosts.

So now I’d love to hear from you:-

What are you currently doing that is working when it comes to reducing the amount of postponements and cancellations you get in your business?

I’d love to hear your comments, so go ahead and share your thoughts in the section below.

Until next time – happy partying!
Lyndsey xo

Feeling Overwhelmed By The Size Of Your To Do List?

Like many of you I’m a busy soul with lots of balls in the air and heaps of things on my ‘To Do List’. Today I thought I’d share my strategy for working through the list to ensure maximum productivity is achieved.

Put simply when I look at my to do list I decide what I need to DELETE, DO NOW, DELEGATE or DELAY.

As I look at my list I ask myself …

Will taking this action help to bring my vision to life?
Will actioning this task move me toward achieving my goals?

If the answer to these questions is NO then more often than not I DELETE it from the list.

The next question I ask myself is …

What can I DO NOW that will have the biggest impact in bringing my vision to life and move me toward my goals and dreams?

Once I’ve identified what these things are they become a priority.

I then look to see what I can DELEGATE to others.

Whether it’s hiring a cleaner, someone to wash the car, take care of your data entry, or an element of your admin, learning to delegate frees you up to do things that only you can do. Whilst there may be a cost to delegate you’ll find that if you focus on income producing tasks during this time that you’ll generate more money than you spend on your hired help. Do it now activities can also be delegated to someone. Just because something needs to be done now doesn’t mean it needs to be done by you.

Next identify what you can DELAY.

Now this is a tricky one because it’s easy to delay things that are important especially if it’s an activity that you don’t really like doing. So be sure to keep a watchful eye out if you tend to do this. The way I decide what I will delay is by asking myself the question … If I choose to delay this task what will the effect be on my business? If there is a negative impact then I choose to DO IT NOW!

So now I’m curious to learn from you.
How do you manage your To Do List so you don’t hit overwhelm and get stuff done?
Please share in the comments sections below so we can learn and grow together.
Lyndsey xo

Do You Ever Struggle To Switch Off?

Just switch off he says!

I would if I could but I don’t have a ‘nothing box’ to chill out in like you do!!

Does that sound like a familiar conversation you sometimes have with the man in your life?

Unlike men, whose brains are a series of individual boxes,  women’s brains are like a big ball of wire where everything is connected to everything.  The idea of switching off for a woman is a foreign concept and one that we can often struggle with.

So what does it mean for women to “switch off” ?

For me ‘switching off’ is the process of moving from my head (masculine) to my heart (feminine).   It’s about taking time to ‘be’ instead of ‘do’ so that I become more present for myself and in turn more present for others.

So how do we do this?

In short through our common senses of sight, touch, taste, smell and hearing.

Here’s my Top 12 ways to move from my head and into my heart :-

  1. Breathe!   Notice your breath as it goes in through your nose and out through your mouth.  Feel the air as it moves through your body.  Ten focused breaths is a simple way you can bring yourself back to your heart in moments.  Best part is you can do it anywhere!
  2. Soak in a luxurious bath filled with bubbles and surrounded by your favourite scented candles.
  3. Go for a walk in nature.
  4. Breathe in the scent of a beautiful flower or your favourite perfume.
  5. Enjoy a stroll along the beach with the waves gently lapping at your feet.
  6. Lie on the grass in the sunshine feeling the rays of the sun warming your body.
  7. Savour a piece of your favourite chocolate.  Feel it stick to your teeth, your tongue and the roof of your mouth.  Delicious!
  8. Listen to your favourite music.
  9. Read something meaningful that helps you reconnect more deeply to your heart such as someone’s inspirational story or  a piece of poetry.  Business books and personal development books don’t’ count!
  10. Meditate.  If your mind is busy observe it with the playfulness of a young child.   There’s no need to make yourself wrong for having a busy mind.  Gazing into a candle or an open fire is another beautiful form of mediation and one that you may find more soothing on the days your mind is particularly busy.  This is one of my favourites.
  11. Nurture your body with a beautiful relaxing massage.
  12. Take a shower.  Put a couple of drops of your favourite pure essential oil on the base of the shower and breath in the aroma as the hot water hits it.  Breath deeply and consciously as you feel the water running through your hair and over your body.  Divine.

There are so many ways we can switch off, its just a case of getting to know what works best for you.

Now that I’ve shared some of my favourites, I’d love to know what you do to switch off.

By sharing with each other we get to learn and grow together so please share in the comments section below.

Much love
Lyndsey xo

PS:  Just for fun I thought I’d add in this really cool video to give you a chuckle on the topic of men’s and women’s brains.

Stay The Distance By Celebrating Your Progress

Its been a hive of activity at our place over the past few days with bob cats whizzing around the yard as workmen prepare to lay our driveways and the cement pad for Jason’s shed. As I watched this unfold, it dawned on me that building a home is much like building a business. It starts with a vision and with your commitment to take daily action in alignment with that vision, eventually becomes your reality. It rarely all comes together at once.

As a result it’s easy to become impatient and disillusioned especially if progress is slower than you had initially envisaged.
Keep reading…